FEW QUESTIONS

I am so happy that a few days ago I got some questions about healing. I honestly thought that no one is reading this blog, yet that I would get asked questions. I am so excited about this! So, let me try to answer the best way I can and always always remember that this is my experience and you have yours. There might be similarities and resonance, but always trust your own feelings and intuition! 

First question:

1.  Does healing always have to go so deep?

The simple answer to this is no, if it is not meant for you.

For some reason it was meant for me. For me healing started a long long time ago and it has been a gradual journey. I did not plan it to go this deep. When I started my inner journey I was convinced that I would go to therapy, deal with my inner shit and then continue my everyday life.

But somehow my inner journey just kept going. Maybe because I did commit to myself 100 % no matter what. I think the last few years my healing journey has intensified. Have I felt like WTF, I still have to dig deeper? YES! Have I felt like this is a fucking never ending journey? YES! But I followed my soul and she led me to deep healing and at some point I jumped on board fully. "Bring it on, I will dive all the way in and I will get into my real being no matter how hard and how long it takes!" My soul just took over.

Your soul journey is unique. You don’t have to go deeper into your being until and unless you are ready. And you don't need to worry about it. It will happen, if it is meant to happen. However your healing journey looks like trust, that it will be just perfect for you.

2. How am I supposed to learn how to love everybody, no matter what they are doing, unconditionally? It seems impossible!

What a good question! I love it! I have been struggling with this one too. Let me try to explain how I look at this now. In my own experience I think that that we have two ways to look at it:

1. the healthy loving abroach (new, healed way)

2. the toxic love and light (old way).

Let me try to open this concept the best way I can. Let's start with the healthy way.

I have always been very grounded with my human side. No matter how deep my healing has gone. I am not only a spirit or a soul, but a human dealing with the issues of a human. So as I went along with my healing journey I decided that to understand my inner journey better I have to look at it from a human Saija perspective and then from a soul Saija perspective.

Human Saija is here to heal her toxic traits like traumas, conditioning and beliefs. And the belief that I should only be love and light to everyone no matter what.

Soul Saija sees everything from a higher perspective. She is also the one who is connected to the earth as well as the Universe. 

When human Saija started her healing journey she needed to allow all the feelings to come out and truly start to feel them. She needed to feel all the pain, hate, anger, bitterness, sadness that was stored inside her body. For me the best way was to give faces to these feelings and those faces were the people who harmed me. And my anger, sadness and pain was valid!

I was not taking my pain out on them, but I needed to “hate” them for a while in order to heal. If at this point of my healing someone would have told me to “just love them as they are”, I would have smacked them 😀. This phase of the healing was a very important part of the journey and I allowed myself to be mad, sad and angry. Not loving at all!

After this I learned bit by bit to set clear boundaries, to forgive and how to be there for myself. I learned new values and new ways of being. I learned not to judge, but not to allow either. I learned how to protect myself and my space. I left behind people that were not good for me. I learned to forgive and forget.

Today, the human Saija part of me doesn’t accept bad behavior, disrespect, violence, arguments, cheating, lies and so on. If she sees this in a person, she walks  away. Very simple. No need to fight or argue. Just walking away and staying silent. 

Then there is soul Saija and she saw all along, not the person who hurt me, but the pain this person was carrying. She was able to see that these people were broken.

Trauma sees the person who is hurting us, healed heart sees the pain the person is carrying.

Broken people break people. Hurt people hurt people. But soul Saija saw behind this pain and she was able to see the hurt these people had gone through themselves. This is why she is able to show them empathy instead of anger and hate.

She was also able to see the bigger picture meaning that we all have our unique soul journey here on earth and that nothing happens by accident. We are meant to meet certain people and go through certain events in order to learn and develop. And soul Saija was the one who could love all these people unconditionally no matter what had happened between us. 

As I learned to love and forgive myself the way I have hurt people because of my own pain, I started to learn to forgive others. As I learned to unconditionally love "the broken parts of me", I was able to extend this love to others too.

So, as human Saija set clear boundaries, soul Saija was sending lots of love to all these people. Human Saija takes care of my inner circle and makes sure that I am dealing with people that are good, kind and supportive to me. Who are willing to grow, who take responsibility for their own inner journey and who make me grow more.

Soul Saija knows that when you truly heal yourself, you start to see the blessings of each painful situation. You start to understand that it all happened for a reason and for me that reason was to learn how to unconditionally love and support myself. And when I started to see the blessings in these events, how could I stay angry or bitter to these people who mistreated me? They are the reason I am where I am today! How could there not be just love towards these people who forced me to find my authentic self?

Then we have the second side to look at this question. The toxic pattern of love and light.

In a toxic version of “loving everybody” you allow the same people to hurt you over and over again. Or maybe it is not the same people, but the behavior patterns continue to be the same. Something like: “Why do I always pull in bad boys? Well, I will change him! With me he will finally be different”. You go back into the same kind of situations because of your own inner patterns and traumas. And instead of seeing this, you think that you can save others by loving them a little bit more and giving them millions of chances to change. You keep “loving” them no matter what they do. This is not love, this is conditioning. 

Loving everybody as they are by making excuses for their behavior, is not healthy. Allowing toxic behavior is not love, it is enabling that behavior. 

Loving everybody after healing, but from a far, is healthy. I can not change others or what they did to me, but I can change myself and set boundaries. Soul Saija sees these little girls and boys in the world that have been abused and broken ever since they were small. And as she can show love to this little girl inside of herself who was so broken, so can she show love to these other broken (adult) children, but from a far. 

By the way, even if soul Saija does not judge anyone or anything, it doesn’t mean that human Saija just accepts everything. I don’t accept hurting others, violence towards anyone and so on, I just don’t judge it.

This world is broken and it is full of all kinds of events that are hard to watch. The human side of me feels empathy and sympathy towards all of this and as a very sensitive person, I do have to distance myself from the outside world as much as I can and just keep going inwards towards my inner peace. The more I can concentrate on my own little life, the better and at peace I feel. 

Well, as with any topic, nothing is ever so black and white, but I hope I was able to give you clarity on how I see things. How I think. Please, always trust your own feelings and intuition. Whatever it is saying to you, it is always right in that moment. You are the guru of your own life and how our journeys look, is so unique. More and more we are coming out of “everybody has to think and feel the same” to uniqueness. 

Thank you so much for these questions! Loved them! Keep them coming!

Hugs,

Saija 😍

THE UNIVERSE IS ALWAYS IN BALANCE

I got this message or insight this morning in my morning shower as I often do and I had to come here and write it down. It is about the evolution in this earth and in this Universe we live in. 

First thing I heard was that the Universe is always in balance. Always. And because the earth is part of the Universe it means that she is always in balance too. The second thing I heard was that there will always be an evolution going on in the Universe. And again, because the earth is part of the Universe, the continues evolution will happen here as well. 

Lets dive deeper, so you can understand what I heard. We all know that about 66 million years ago the dinosaurs were extinct. Now, no one really knows what happened, but there is a theory that a huge asteroid hit the earth and this caused them to die. No humans were on earth at that time, isn't it so? So it was not our fault that the dinosaurs died, right? This was part of earth's and dinosours evolution and after this came other species. 

Let’s move on. Ice age. We have had many of them in earth’s history. Latest 11 5000 - 115 000 ago. Right now we are living a phase called the “mild phase”, but it is for sure that the movements of the tectonic plates are happening continuously and it will keep happening as long as there earth is existing. The continents looked very different thousands of years ago then how they are now. This is also an evolution no one can not stop. 

The next ice age will come, but when, we can not surely know. Maybe within 50 000 years or maybe 100 000. Who knows. Under the surface of the earth, things keep moving continuously and no matter what we humans do, this is an evolution we can not stop. 

So, as you can now see there has always been evolution going on here on earth and in the Universe. So now we come to humans. 

We can’t stop the evolution, even in ourselves. Each and every generation will have their own purpose to be here even if we don’t see it like this. The earth has its own evolution and it will happen no matter what. So does humans. So do all the animals, insects and organisms. We don’t know how long we humans are going to be a part of the earth journey, but we also don’t know how long one animal species has here. 

Everything and anything here on earth as well as in the Universe is always in balance. Humans create fear based conditioning and seperation by thinking that we somehow would be powerful enough to destroy this earth. This is not true. As crazy as it might seem, everything and anything here on earth is here by purpose no matter how crazy it looks. Nothing, absolutely nothing, is by change. This is very important to understand. 

As I go deeper into my being I automatically start listening to my body. My body is connected to this earth and to this Universe. My body can detect signals from earth as well as from the Universe. This makes me automatically follow the natural rhythm of the earth and its needs as well as my own. I start naturally making life choises that benifit not only me, but the earth too. As each of us is unique, this looks different for all of us. Maybe I eat lighter, maybe my buying habits will change. Maybe the way I live becomes more natural and more respectful to the nature. As I become more authentic, my being comes more natural. This automatically aligns me with the rythm of the earth and the Universe.  

Everything and everybody is here for a reason! As humans we might not understand it and it might look violent or harming, but it is all part of the evolution. Our job is not to judge, but to allow. Maybe I don't accept, but I don't judge. Whatever others do, is not our business, because as I have my own unique journey, so do they. Right now we are in a phase where there are a lot of opposites in the world. Some people are committed to healing, some are far from it. And this creates a balance here on earth at this time. As the evolution goes further, the opposites will be less.

The earth will always take care of itself. Think about Chernobyl. What people did and how nature took over after humans. Evolution. We humans come and go, so do animals and other creatures, but the earth keeps going. At least for now. As long as it’s meant to be. 

Now we come to the important part. How to love and have compassion to all just as it is. Not wanting to change anything or anyone, but one self? Not trying to interfere with the evolution and the journey of this earth, its creatures or other humans? This love and compassion to all existing can only happen when we turn inwards and can show this love and compassion to ourselves. Think how things have evolved since the 50’s! Cool right! Kids that are born right now will come here with a knowledge that we can not even think of! Evolution babe! 

Whatever is meant to happen, will happen. No need to feel guilty or put that guilt on others either. However your evolution and growth will happen to you in this lifetime, it is just right for you and you are going to get the exact things, lessons and blessings you came here to learn and get. The whole world is here for you as a gift and to mirror your own inner world and self love. To look at your own reactions to something you don’t understand or doesn’t seem right to you. 

Do you judge or accept? Maybe in your personal life, you don't allow or want, but do you jugde? How do you react to cigarettes, porn, winter, what someone is wearing, murders, skin color, someone's weight, someone’s marriage, drugs, politics, money, cultures, the leaders of this world. The list of the gifts this earth has to offer you are endless! It is NOT about them, but all about you and your own evolution! 

So, things are changing rapidly and we are moving to the next phase of human and earth evolution. This means that the “old” has to die in order for the new to arise. This is the way it has been and will always be. Like the dinosours or the ice age. No matter how it looks outside, the only place you actually should look at right now, is inside. Relax. Let evolution happen. The less you judge, the less you resist, the more peace you will have inside. And so will increase the peace on earth. 

If you are meant to help, not resist, the earth in this evolution, it will happen from inside out, by following your inner guidance. Your inner guidance will automatically align you with the earth's evolution and balance. This is something you don’t even need to be aware about. Less conflict and judging energy, more loving energy. Either way, evolution is happening and we humans don’t have the power to stop this movement. 

Right now we are moving from fear to love. No matter how your unique journey looks, you are here for a reason and you are for sure, part of this change in evolution that we are going through. You might be a bit like Greta Thunberg or you might not. Either way, all is in balance here on earth as it is in the Universes.

A HUMAN BEING HAVING A SPIRITUAL EXPERIENCE

More and more louder this small voice inside of me keeps whispering to me that “ You are unique!”, “Your life path is unique!”. Forget about others, concentrate only on you! And on some level I have known this, but this time these sentences sink deep into my awareness. "Let go, let them!" my soul shouts!

Lately I have also questioned all that I have learned from spiritual teachings throughout the years of my awakening. Everything makes sense and at the same time it all feels very very old to me. As I keep going deeper and deeper into my being, the less I care what once was. What I thought was true to me. 

I don’t follow so many “spiritual teachers” anymore, but https://www.instagram.com/neutrinoastrology I do every now and then. And he said something in his recent video about how it is impossible for others to understand what you are going through or how you are feeling. Not on a deep level. If I hit my toe and I feel the pain of it, my friend can not know how it feels, because she is not experiencing it. Even if she would hit her toe too still, her pain would be different, unique to her, than mine. I could relate, but not truly feel how she feels. Just like she could not truly know what I feel. 

We all have a unique life. We all have different traumas, beliefs, cultures, lessons to learn. Even if I might have gone through a similar situation then someone else and I can RELATE, I can never go inside someone's heart and truly feel and know what their experience is. And this, my friend, breaks all the boxes and life paths that all of us have been taught to follow: go to school, get an education, work hard, chase money and fame/tittles, pention, death. We used to be sheeps, all going in the same direction. Doing the same things. Or this is how we were conditioned. The herd is easier to control than unique individuals. A person who stands in their own truth can not be controlled in any way. She won’t do what you want, but what she thinks it’s best for her. And not by hurting others when doing it. This is unique. 

Before, when I was sharing and explaining my feelings or inner journey to someone,  I needed sympathy and empathy from others. Now I give it to myself. Before I was looking for validation from outside of me, now I give it to myself. And as I do this, the need to share anything to anyone just disappears. 

And this brings me to this insight that “leave everyone alone”! Their journey is none of your business! Their journey is not yours to judge! It is not yours to fix or to safe! Some people awaken in this lifetime, some don’t. It is none of my business. It is not less or more than. It is just different! As long as I do me and ONLY concentrate on my life, it’s all good! No more giving advice or pushing my own agenda on anybody! Ah, what a freedom! It is time for me to stop putting us all into the same boxes. Everyone is as unique as I am. 

Last week I also got this deep insight of my own experience of responsibility. Ever since I was a small child, I had to take too much responsibility for my age. And this pattern has been going on all my life! No wonder I have been so tired and have gone through so many burnouts! I have always felt very uncomfortable when someone is unhappy and so I have tried my best to make things better. A pattern learned as a child. A belief that it is somehow my responsibility to make sure that everyone is happy and doing well. In my own expence of cause.

Now, for the first time EVER in my life I am only taking responsibility for my own well being. I don't have pets, I don't have small kids, I don't have a spouse. It is just me! When I stop interfering in other people's lives and their lessons, it sets me free. LET THEM! No matter what it is, LET THEM! Oh, you think 2 + 2 is 10? Okay! Oh, you think round is square? Okay! Oh, you want to go back to your abusive boyfriend? Okay. Oh, you want to numb your feelings with alcohol? Okay. 

Nothing outside of me is my responsibility! Only I am. If spiritual teachings don’t resonate, okay! I do me and that is just perfect for me. The more I am stepping into my own truth and experience, the more I allow others to do the same. 

One thing that also has come up to me last week are the traps that spirituality holds. YOU ARE NEVER GOOD ENOUGH! There is always something to improve in you, something to learn, go a little bit deeper. You are not “there” yet, so buy another course or seminar. Phrases like “you are a spirit in a human body” fucks me up big time! I even get angry, because it doesn't resonate with me at all! “Time is limitless” or “we truly never die” are so fucking “out there” as can be! How disrespectful and arrogant is this towards human life, human body! Spirituality as we know it, sucks the joy out of you totally!

I came here to this earth to be a HUMAN! A human who does die and whose time here on earth IS limited! I came here to learn how to be a better HUMAN, not better spirit! First towards myself and from there to others. I did not come here to only be a fucking spirit who wants to escape the human side of this journey. Life happens ALWAYS no matter if you are awake or not! Ask the monks! They will tell you the truth!   

I had to go very deep into my being for some reason. That is my journey, but it is not everyones. I am not here to be another “Echart Tolle”, but to be me. A human being called Saija. Accepting all my human traits as I accept my soul too. To truly shed anything I have ever learned from outside of me. Keeping the teachings that are true to me and leaving the rest. I had to walk the talk in order to get in touch with my own wisdom. Wisdom that you can not get from the books, but from going through it. Through experiencing the inner journey. 

I curse, I smoke. I do yoga and then I don’t. I eat what I want when I want it. Just to give you a few examples. I do me. I am a human being who follows her heart's guidance. I don’t need to be holy, I don’t need to be perfect. I don’t always have to be the “bigger person” and I don’t always have to know how to do the right thing. What ever the fuck it even is! If I do my best, it is enough. If I don’t keep repeating the same shit again and again, that’s already a lot. If I can love myself fully and trust my own truth and path, that’s already a lot!

All I have to do is to be loyal to myself and leave everyone else's lives alone. For the first time ever in my life, I am standing strongly on my own two feet. Never ever will I take responsibility for another human's journey. Never ever will I listen to someone else telling me how to be or what to do. I will never ever again apologise for who I am! Never ever again will I fit into an image that someone else made for me. 

I have succeeded in making myself feel very loved, safe, full and protected from inside out. That is unbelievable to me! I can’t believe I was able to do this. And to be honest, it almost killed me! It was a very very hard and lonely journey. And still is. But I am here. Breathing. A human being who is going through a spiritual awakening. Missing life after isolating myself for so long. Waiting for clarity to come. Praying for lighter days to come. For joy to come back to my life after this very heavy and long period. 

I got me and that’s the most important thing. I will always have my back. I will never abandon myself again for no one. I am my own bodyguard. And my space is so very sacred.

BEING IN SERVICE

I woke up today and as I was making my coffee I heard a message coming through: “What if you didn’t heal yourself to “serve” others, but for you to create a new, exciting life with more genuine joy?” My soul (Victoria) always does this. Her messages (my insights) come out of the blue in the most weird moments. 

This morning I really needed to break this limiting belief. A box that I had put myself into. 

What does it mean “to serve others”? Really? Is there only this one way that my limited mind could imagine and how others are doing it? Establish a Y-Tube channel? Instagram account? Being a “spiritual teacher” or “coach”? 

For a long time this idea has made me feel quite heavy, if I am totally honest. It doesn’t make my heart sing. I am interested in other peoples stories, but I am not interested in helping them in their healing journeys. I don’t feel like going back to my past and sharing it anymore.I am very okay with all of the happenings until now and I don’t have any need to keep going back there over and over again.  

I am not looking for heaviness in this new life of mine, but lightness, simplicity, easiness, joy. Something that makes my heart and soul sing. So why am I then thinking “I must be at service and help others to heal”? Somewhere along this healing journey I heard someone say: “heal, so you can help others”. And there it was. New belief was created inside of me. 

This morning I have totally thrown this idea to the Universes! I DON’T FREAKING HAVE TO, IF I DON’T WANT TO! As I let go of this, I feel such a load taken off my shoulders and it feels amazing!  

All is energy, right? As I heal, my own individual energy gets lighter and lighter. Now, this doesn’t mean that I have light days everyday. Absolutely not! But, it does mean that I FEEL the heaviness, I don’t become it anymore. So, my individual energy stays light. 

This was a good one! I took my coffee and sat down with this. What does this really mean to me, because as soon as I heard this, I felt so light. 

As I am learning to only listen to myself and to become my unique self, I am faced with all kinds of beliefs that I have taken within me from outside sources. Mostly from the spiritual teachers, since this is an important topic to me. Now I am pulling out all these beliefs that I thought are true to me, as they are for them. I am transforming from group thinking to my unique life signature. 

So, I have had this belief that since I actually went through the healing journey, not reading about it from a book and I actually experienced its ups and downs, my new phase in life would  “be in service to humanity”. How many times have I heard “share your story and this way you help others”. How conditioned are we to “serve others”? Are we selfish if we don’t?

This individual lightness changes the collective energy a little bit lighter. So does each and every soul that has the courage to heal themselves. Now, we know that “the old and heavy” energies are for example business, manipulation, control, planning, disrespect, masks, numbness, conditional love, lying, gossiping, irresponsible behavior, addictions and so on. As I heal, all of this heaviness clears away. As a healed person I can not be anything else than authentic, real, honest (and so much more) and have a unique soul path. 

The idea that we have to be at service to others is another conditioning and now I am throwing this to the Universes too! Well actually, hold on. Let’s not throw it away, but let me tell you how I see it now after this morning revelation. 

If joy and laughter have a high vibe, then am I not “in service”, if I create my life from now on to these values? Am I not the best gift ever to humanity, if I am genuinely enjoying my life and truly love whatever I am going to create and the process of creating? TOTALLY!

My conclusion is that we all are always in service to humanity. One way or another. Each and everyone in our unique ways. For me, I thought, there was only one way to do it, but this idea is now gone! 

I don’t have a glue on what my creative life will look like or what it is I want to create. But I do know (at least in this moment) what it will not be: a long, hard process where I try to collect followers, build my “business” and keep it going forever even if I’m already burnout under it. No. For me there can not be any goals to achieve. I create this, BOOM, it's gone and the next one comes when it comes. Fast, simple, easy and fun! Here the idea came, loved and enjoyed the process and there it goes. Free as a bird! Not sticking or clinging into anything. 

So, I am in service in my unique way all the time. Let things, even creations, flow! Let them flow!

PAST IS NOW PAST

Few days ago I was listening to a podcast as I was walking and it seems that we have come to an end of an era that started in 2008. In this podcast the host was asking listeners to reflect all the way there and write down what has changed since then. Not so much outside, but inside. What he was saying was “write it down and then finally let the past, the old, go.”

My story with my other home, Gambia, started in 2008. First by meeting a person from there. I had never even heard about Gambia! This was also the time when I started my therapy. My inner journey started slowly. Gambia gave me the change to distance myself from the things I needed to heal and I felt so much freer there. Bit by bit, I was also able to “bring in action” my new ways of being. 

The old Saija was liked a lot, because she was funny, didn’t have any boundaries, she was pleasing others, she was not speaking her truth. She didn’t know how to put in words what she wanted. She was totally blogged with her feelings. Unconscious. She didn’t take that much responsibility for her words and actions, but made excuses for her behavior. Even blamed others. She did talk about others behind their backs. Gossiping too. She did put others' well being in front of her own and she did too much, because she wanted to prove to everyone that she is enough! She was doing and doing, being busy and didn’t have a glue how to stop! She didn’t understand that she was running away from the pain to doing, having a huge social circle and drinking alcohol. To mention a few. She went through three burnouts and depression period. In intimate relationships she surely knew how to hurt and sting. She took her shit into others. Her abandonment issues made it impossible to love her or create long lasting relationships with men. This trade also pulled in men who were broken and unavailable. There is sooooo much to add to this, but I don’t want this post to be only about the old Saija. 

I had no clue how much shit I was carrying and once you start to heal yourself it takes time and patience. It truly is like an onion and you have to shed all the layers to get to your true self. 

Broken people break people. That I have learned. I was broken, so for sure, I broke other people as much as they broke me more. So there it is. A very toxic circle that before 2008, I did run away from. 

So, bit by bit I was doing my healing work. Sometimes not even being conscious that it was so. But now looking back, all these years from 2008 have been about healing and clearing.

I don’t quite remember when it was that I came to the crossroads. This is the space where you can stay for years, even for the rest of your life. This is the space where it gets harder and harder. I was in my “love & light” phase without understanding that I was actually bypassing a lot of shit, by thinking that I just send love and light to all and all will be fine. 

My soul (Victoria) stopped me then. I still can hear her voice saying that now, things will get real. Now you have to commit yourself to this inner journey no matter what. You have to commit to yourself 100 % no matter what. Something in me said yes, even if it was scary. 

Oh my and after this commitment, I started to truly feel my emotions and I was faced with practice. It is not enough that you know your patterns and your toxic behavior, you need to bring your new awareness into action. I was tested (and I still am). For example: oh, you want to unlearn people pleasing? Cool! Let’s put you in situations where you have to practise this. Let people come to you and disrespect you BIG TIME and then we’ll see do you have the balls to put a boundary there and how long, how bad does it have to go, before you do.

So day after day, week and month after another, year after year I just kept on going. Faced with challenges where I had to practise being the person I wanted to become. Sometimes I failed badly, sometimes I succeeded greatly. This is how it goes. And actually I don’t believe in failures anymore, because without them, I wouldn’t learn. 

I am not the same person, I was 16 years ago. I am not the same as I was even last week! The transformation keeps going, because I am so committed to me and my healing. I have gotten a lot of shit because of this, but I don’t care. This is my journey. I have learned to be mercifull toward myself and that I don't have to be perfect. I am here to learn and unlike someone else, I am eager to learn. And not only learn, but change my ways of being. I am eager to heal and not afraid to do it. I am still very much committed to me and this is the most important thing.

I already told you guys in the last post who I am now and how I live my life these days, so I will not repeat it here again. All I am going to say here is that my focus is now on the new.

Because I still live in old circumstances it takes a conscious effort to let it go. I do it as much as I can and have mercy towards myself in those days, it can not be done. But more and more, I stay by myself, do my things, love my energy. Not settling less than I deserve. I think I came here to my old home town to let go of my past for good, so that I can move on with love in my heart. No resentment, no bitterness. All forgiven to all, including myself. So thankful for all the people and our history together. Without them, I wouldn’t be healed and free. Having this inner peace, huge wisdom, awareness, self love, self support. Being in charge of my own life. Not bowing to anyone, but respecting everyone for sure. 

Past is the past and there I leave it. Thank you. With all my love.

A NEW DAWN

Oh my, it has been such a long time since I have written anything! I"ve been through such a deep dive within myself that lately I was able to do only the basics. Eat, sleep, have a nap and watch Netflix. Sometimes not even Netflix! I have needed isolation: me time and being. Everything I thought I was has fallen away. Not only outside, but also inside. Who I thought I was, is no more.

Victoria (my higher self) and Roger (my ego) are still around, but now I am fully in charge. No more "my guides said or my angels said". They might guide me and say things, but I am the one who voices it out, if I do, so all of it is now my responsibility. So no more hiding behind anyone. Human or spirit.

Things have been intense, I am not gonna lie! I am sooooo done with spirituality, lessons, learning, clearing, healing. All of that shit! It has been a fucking long road, 20 years to be exact, and now I feel like "CAN I LIVE FINALLY!?!?!?!" I NEED A BREAK!!!

Isolation forced me to be okey, from deep inside, with being alone. Being alone, but not feel lonely. If I was feeling lonely was, because I was missing "the old Saija" and the way she lived her life. This was all part of the prosess of letting go. You jump between the old and the new. 

Now, I rather be alone than in a toxic invironment or fake people. I enjoy it! The only thing that was fucking me up a bit was the heaviness of the over all energy. It was so heavy that it literally knocked me out and glued me to my sofa. 

BUT, without this heavy energy around me, I wouldn't have stopped. FULLY! My body just haven't had the energy to do anything else than be. And this, my friends, is such a blessing, even though very very uncomfortable! This heavy energy was pushing all kind of shit out of my inner system! 

I can hear people around me saying things like " I don't know how you can just be without doing nothing, I could never do it, I would die!" Yep, that's the fear talking. I know, because I used to be like this. It is not that you can't stop. You can't, because then all the things you have been running away from, will start to come up. And this is what you can't do. Face you! To feel! But you keep busy, I keep feeling (= healing). This shit is not for sheeps, but to lions!

It is so weird to me that the ex social butterfly has now become isolated butterfly. I don't like people in this moment. I love them, but I don't like them. I don't like how we treat each other and this earth. It's animals. The ammount of disrespect, hatered, uncivilized behavior, selfishness, unwillingness to grow, immature and egoistic behavior. No, I don't like people as much as I do love them.  

I like my own energy very much and so I stay connected to me and my inside world. My whole identity has gone through a massive shift! 

What was, is no more. I have become this intuitive self guided master Queen! It is hard for me to listen to anyone else than me and I always get huge anxiety if I do listen to energy updates or fucking angel messages. I have been wondering why, but now I understand that for me, all this is now in the past. I don't need these anymore to guide me or give me answers. I don't need to know what is going to happen. 

The new energy is about trusting myself, my gut feeling, my intuition, my inner compass, my emotions, my own navigating system. It doesn't make sence to anyone else than me and this is how it is supposed to be. I am not looking for validation outside of me, I don't need it. I am tired of spiritual teachings that keep me in a spiral of "there is something wrong with me, because my manifestations have not come true yet" -type of things. Fuck that!

I don't need anyone anymore to tell me what to eat or drink, how to dress, how to act, who to see. I listen to my body and how I feel and act upon this. I carry myself with such a huge integrity now and I don't need to please anyone else, but me. It is such amazing feeling when all the outside noice drops out and you can only hear you. And then to trust this! No more boxes or labels. Just me as a free soul guiding myself in this playground called earth! 

What I have learned in this inner deep dive is that sometimes it is not about me! SHOCKER 😂! It is about something bigger than me and that this force, what ever name you wanna call it, knows the best! It is fucking anoying, but it is what it is. If this force wouldn't have kept me so limited with outside things (money, clothes et cetera) I would have not been able to dive so deep in myself and let go of all I thought I was. For the past 2 1/2 years there has been very small or no outside distractions, so that I can let go of the old identety for good. Limitations are truly a blessing as fucked up as it is!

Now I am bit by bit learning to co-operate with this greater power. Not fight aginst it, but co-operate. This power and my soul are my guiding lights from now on. 

I have never had less then now. No money, only my daughter, no other family, no new clothes, no gym, no work, no car, no direction in life, no plans, no goals, NOTHING! The other day my friend asked me, if I feel poor now that I literally don't have anything and I said absolutely not! I actually don't! I don't even think about myself like that anymore! This means that after all this diving deep, it has guided me to my own inner richness! Without even realizing it, I have started to fill my own cup from inside! How amazing!

With this prosess everything has come energy. Grateful has it's own energy. Sadness it's own. Anger, manipulation, joy, peace. All of it, is energy. As I am learning to be this new person, I don't fake or force anything anymore. I live with the energies that are present in each moment. Sometimes it is anxiety, sometimes it is joy. Sometimes I feel thankfull, sometimes totally fucked up. I have understood that all of these energies just run through me and now I don't try to get away from them or try to force them. Let them flow! The only thing that stays no matter what and what truly is my foundation now, is inner peace. You can't shake that. It is forever present. Unshakeable!

I have been able to fill my own cup, because for the first time EVER in my life, I don't share my energy others. Before you could have taken everything from me and I would have whole heardedly give it you. I kept giving and giving. Money, stuff, my energy. Taking care, trying to save, listening, being a shoulder to cry on. But when everything started to fall away, all that energy was turned inside. I desided that I am worthy of all my attention, so that's what I did. 

This doesn't mean that I don't see my daughter or talk to my friend, but most of the time it was just me and I. Going through this phase in my life has made me respect myself to the roof! Why, because I know what it takes! How hard it is! How humbling it is. I am at aaaah infront of me. 

I have gone through such a huge metamorphosis that it is unspeakable! Only those who have gone through it know what I am talking about and how much courage it takes! I truly didn't think I will make it! I was sure I am going to die within this prosess! And who knows when I die, but right now, I am still here!

I am still bruised. I feel veryl vulnerable. I am tired. But I am here! 

I have given birth to this new identity and a new way of living! I don't have a clue how this is going to look like from now on, because this way of living is about trust, faith and intuition. It is not about plans, control, goals or busyness. You have to be okey with not knowing. The uncertainty. The surpricess. Now, I live in a moment. There is this deep deep peace inside of me and it can not be shaken. This my lovies is the true freedom!!!!  

This inner journey will continue as long as I live, but now it is a natural prosess and I don't have to think about it. I don't need to know every fucking thing, I don't need to know why. I just need to allow and keep FEELING! This level of trust I have now towards myself, is beond anything I could have ever imagined. I am open to learn, but I am my own guiding system. Guru if you will. 

It is amazing feeling to love myself as much as I do! It is so empowering to be guided by me! I trust that I will guide me forward to the next phase of my life! In my new life there is no "manifestation". Instead there is: "I don't know anything, but my intuition will tell me what and when, when the timing is right"! 

I have reset myself to a being, that I was so far away from. You know how the animals have this sense that something is about to happen and they run, before humans even realize something is going on? I have become this "animal like" intuitive being and it feel so natural and real! How far our fear based world had taken me from my true self!?!?! In this state of being, I just am. 

For me this is a new dawn! This takes away all the stress and what is left is living! Just pure living! What it will look like, who knows and who cares! I am free from all of the slavery of this world! I can not be put in any boxes or labels anymore! I am a free soul who came here to play! To create! To have fun! To thrive! To experience lifes full magic and surprices!!

A new dawn is here.

GOOD PERSON VERSUS NICE PERSON

I am learning so much about relationships. These past few years it has been all about this or at least it feels like that. How blind have I been to my own behavior before and how differently I see things now. I must say that I have matured a lot!

Before it was so important to have lots of social contacts. It was very important to me to get along with everybody and the ammount of shit I have taken from others because of this. And don't get me wrong, the little draumatized girl in me, also was behaving badly. 

Before I might done things that hurt people and I was very aware about that factor. But my pleasure in that moment was more important then the shit I had to deal with afterwards. I had so little respect towards myself, so how could I have respected others?

Since the relationships have been the big deal lately, I have realized that people pleasing is a very toxic behavior pattern. Not only are you disrespecting yourself by pleasing others and bypassing shitty behavior, but people pleaser don't have any boundaries. A people pleaser cares about what others think too much and are very scared that someone gets angry at them and will not like them anymore. 

People pleaser has a very very low selfesteem. 

"A people pleaser personality means a person feels a strong urge to please others, even at their own expense. They may feel that their wants and needs do not matter and they can alter their personality around others." 

This is why a people pleaser can never be authentic and honest.

Being "mr nice guy" is more important then selfrespect and selflove. I was not aware at all how much this behavior hurt me. But now, one person at the time, the people in my life are teaching me to let go of this people pleasing behavior. When someone does something disrespectful to me, I feel it in my whole body! 

I can not "let it slide" anymore. Before I would have been scared to loose them, if I say something, but now, I don't care. I am the most important person in my life and if I don't stand up for me, who will? How can I expect loyalty from others, if I don't have it towards myself? I have to take care of me, as I expect others to care for me.

For me, a good person is someone who is not afraid to dive deep in their soul. They are willing to do the inner work, instead of repeating the same shit again and again. A good person might fuck up, but they are willing to learn,  take responsibility of their actions and have pure intention NOT to do the same mistake again. A good person is changing this world into more mature and loving place and this is something a people pleaser can never do! 

I remember this saying: "If you bow to a person in front of you remember, at the same time, you are showing your ass to another behind you." 

This to me, is people pleasing. You can not win! Someone will always get upset! There will always be drama and other bullshit. After you didn't have the guts to confront this one, but "you took their side", the other one gets angry, because you took the other ones side. Lot of backstabing and gossiping. Lot of behind someones back talks. Huoh. A very toxic and vicious circle! 

But if you aim to become a good person, you start from you. You think of your actions, before acting. You think of your words, before saying them. You choose wisely the people you want close to you. You will have their back, no matter what, just as they will have yours. No matter if someone gets angry or upset. No one will disrespect you or your family and friends! A good person truly values themselves and this means they truly value the people in their life. They don't betray, but stay loyal. People pleser can never do this. 

A good person loves and respects themselves a lot and this energy is spread to the environment and to everyone they meet. A good person don't create drama or hurt. People pleaser does. A good person knows how to set boundaries with clarity and truth, not by being mean or calling names or by blame. 

A good person takes this world forward with love and honor, not with power and force. Not by games and lies. But with authenticity, inner power, clarity, honesty and the biggest thing.... No bullshit from anyone! A good person teaches us to mature and stop playing small. 

If this whole world would learn how to be a good person instead of a nice person, this world would be a totally different place. 

Well, this is my goal! To become a good person! When I look at this world and I see the lack of awareness, it sometimes shocks me! How can we be so blind to our own behavior? How can we be so imature? How is it that we can not see that hurt people hurt people? But. I know that this was me before and all I can say is thank god my soul guided me to awaken to my own bullshit and it guided me to stop hurting me and from that hurt inner place, others. 

I know I am becoming a good person and for that I am very proud! It has not been easy, but the way I feel inside now I know, it was worth the pain and letting go's!

LIMITATIONS ARE BLESSINGS?

We are taught that limitations are negative. I am sure that all of us got aware of limitations when the whole world stoped few years back. Then we were not able to travel as we wanted, there were curfews and so on. We felt like our freedom was taken away. 

We can also feel limited by lack. Lack of money, lack of relationships, lack of health and so on. Since I am learning new ways of being I have been eager to learn more about shifting my mindset and seeing "glass half full" instead of "glass half empty". I am not trying to force anything, even new ways of thinking, but I am intriguined on how to see things in a new light. 

I have felt very limited last couple of years. I have limited resourses, no creativity, less and less people around me and so on. I am very okey and at peace with this, but of cause, as a human, I wonder what the hell is going on. 

Well, today I learned something new about "limitations" and I want to share this fascinating info with you. A new way to look at "limitations". Or lack for that matter.

I believe that we are here to learn. Learn about ourselves, learn how to unconditionally love ourselves, how to have healthy self respect and boundaries. And so on. 

The way I see is that we are here to mature and evolve and take this world towards more loving way of living. We are here to learn how to combine our soul with our bodies. I could not live without taking care of my soul as much as I take care of my body. 

My own experience is that everything and everybody I see in my life, reflects some part of myself. For example, some relationships just naturally fade away, because we are in a different place energetically. Why this also happens, in my own experiense, is because maybe the person who you are not connecting as before, has traits you used to had in you, but not anymore. This is why you can not relate anymore.

As I do my inner work, my energy changes. My behavior changes. I am changing and as I have written before, we outgrow people, situations and even places. This is natural. And now we get to what I learned today about the limitations. 

If we only look at limitations from minds perspective, we loose the positive side of it. We have to look at it from the souls perspective, so that we can see and understand the bigger meaning behind it. 

Imagine a river or a stream where the water is running. The way the water runs is being guided by banks. Banks create "a path" for the water. Now the water knows where to flow instead of "going all over the place". This kind of path is created to us also with limitations. They create this energetic container for us to stop, look inside, to learn more about ourselves. To keep us "on the right track". 

In this world there are so many possibilities, options and info that without any limits, we would come crazy. It would just be too much to handle. I used to worked like crazy and took too much on my schedule and at the end it was impossible to handle it all. I didn't have any limits. Until burnout stopped me. The Universe stepped in. It was an intervention!

So, if we don't create limits to ourselves, the Universe does it for us. It is like a loving father who stops us from breaking ourselves. We get sick or depressed and so on. One way or another the Universe will stop us. Why, because it wants us to get quiet, turn inwards and listen to our soul, our hearts. Get back on track. And learn, learn, learn!

 I loved this metaphor I heard today:

"Think about a bee that takes its time in one flower. It is patient, persistant and diggs deep and as a reward, he gets the most best nectarine ever from that flower. Compare this to a bee that is flying from flower to flower and only gets the juice from the top level of the flower (superficial life). This bee will never get to taste the divine nectarine that was available for him all along."

Limitation or lack is a beautiful gift from the Universe! How do I react if I don't have money? How do I feel if I am in a place that doesn't resonate with me anymore at all? What do I have to let go and do so that I could move on?

Once you know your limitations (inner and outer), you create an energetic container for yourself. Now you know what the boundaries are and you can actually relax. This is where the real creativity starts to happen. Think about a painter. He sets up his container = limits = boundaries first. What is it that he wants to paint? Water colors or acryl colors? What colors he is going to use and so on. Once this container is set, the creativity can flow freely. 

We are like children who need clear boundaries. A child needs very clear guidelines and within them, they feel safe. Children don't have the capasity yet to create them by themselves. And as we grow up, our energy containers get bigger, but we still have to take care of our limitations. 

Limits, the energy container created by the Universe, gives us a change to dive deep into our beeing in every way. The space (limitation/container) is created, because it is needed. It doesn't matter if we are aware of this need or not. It is needed, if it happens. These limitations are the spaces where the inner growth happens! 

So, limitation is actually just another way for the Universe to take care of you, so that you don't get overwhelmed by the external. It gives you the space and time to internally get ready for your next phase. Let go of the old (beliefs, fears, behavior and so on), so that you create a bigger container for the new!

Limitations give us the guidelines in which to function in each moment, so that you can relax and learn all the lessons needed. Your heart knows how to set these limitations and by following its guidance, you will always have right kind of container you need in that moment. This serves you, it never "limits" you. 

And truly, after this almost two years of "limitation", this stagnate situation, I start to see the blessings. How much I have changed! How different I am from this person who came here less than two years ago! Without this space given to me, I would have never ever grown inside this fast! How cool is this? How can it NOT be a huge blessing?!?

Ah, this Universe works in mysterious ways! Like a child, I might first get a tantrum and fight against it, but then I accept, settle down, get inner peace and from there, the inner wisdom and the lessons. Huoh, I absolutely love it! If I could only learn NOT to fight against "what is", but instead would learn how to relax and trust. Sometimes it is just so that things don't go as we want, but the way they are meant to. 

True freedom is beond our limiting beliefs! What is it that truly limits us? It is only our own mind! And that, my lovies, is something we can work on!